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Tera Clow
Wife’s name: Tera Clow
Husbands name: Sakari Clow
How long have you been married? 2 years this past March
When did you get married? March 23, 2013
Short story of timeline before engagement and marriage:
2003 - met at a youth group car wash, love at first sight
2003-2012 - We were really good friends, seeing each other about 5 days a week between basketball practice, youth group, church, and school
March 25, 2012 - Sak finally asked me out and I said yes
August 20th - He asked me to be his best friend and wife forever, and I said YES.
March 23, 2013 - WE GOT HITCHED.
This week’s Just be bride is Tera Clow. I am not sure where to start about this beautiful woman. Her heart for the Lord and for people is unmatched. Having known her from a young age she is the type of person that when you see her, no matter how long it has been, she makes you feel like the most special person in the room. Tera lights up a room when she walks in and it is no wonder that it was love at first sight for her and Sak. There could not be two more deserving people of the happiness that these two share. If you are to spend just a few minutes around this couple you will leave thinking to yourself, now that is what true love looks like. I had this experience personally not to long ago. I ran into Sak and Tera at a Panera Bread and myself and sister spent just a few minutes catching up. After they left I looked at my sister and said don’t ever let me get married until someone looks at me and I look at someone the way Sak and Tera look at one another. The way these two look at eachother will motivate any single girl to wait for the man God has picked out and not settle for anything less. I am so excited to have Tera and Sak be a part of Just be and I can't wait for you all to get to know them. Keep reading I promise you wont be disappointed!!
Indoors or outdoors wedding?
I would have chosen outdoor but I sweat like a man…so, indoors.
Where did you get your dress?
I wanted a dress that looked like Padme’s dress in Star Wars II….so I wanted something antique, vintage, lace. I found my dress web surfing during a stupid movie on the 20th page of an ETSY search! A magazine editor had all the fabrics shipped over from france and custom designed into her wedding dress back in the 70s. It just happened to fit nearly perfectly. Absolutely, I’d check on random websites like ETSY if you want something unique because so many people post valuables on there, it’s not a chain store. Before I found my dress we went to a few stores to look but they all looked a little more costumey or generic to me, more prom dressy.
How many bridesmaids did you have?
Ha. We had 11 bridesmaids and 11 groomsmen, they stayed in pairs on stage. And yes, it was a mix of family and close friends. It didn’t occur to me not to have any or I may have done that.
Where did you honeymoon?
We honeymooned in the Grand Cayman islands and it was incredible! We stayed at the Seaside Cottages; they were individual little cottages with a full kitchen, etc. We had the beach entirely to ourselves except for one other family. My husband heard about it from relatives. Our bedroom had double-glass doors that opened out onto the ocean so we left them open all the time with the breeze blowing through the room and waking up to the sunrise spilling into the room. We did not excursion…we didn’t leave our room much…
What song was your first dance to?
We danced to “My Little Girl” by Jack Johnson
Were you happy with the music, anything you would have done differently?
Everything went great…the only thing to consider- somehow I guess the DJ didn’t realize and he cut the father/daughter dance song short. So being sure to communicate with the DJ exactly what you want is crucial.
Did you hire a wedding planner?
Sak’s parents paid for a wedding planner for us as a wedding present and we are SO glad they did. It alleviated a TON of stress just because it helps clear your brain to know that you weren’t forgetting something major that was falling through the cracks. She had us do a lot of the work but she basically made sure we were on schedule, reminded us of stuff, helped us think through details, and then she also acted as our wedding coordinator.
What did you do for your bridesmaid’s gift?
Pedicure certificates and toe rings before the wedding
Were you happy with the photography?
We were very happy with the photography, but I do wish that they had taken more pictures of the wedding décor and stage set-up, etc.
What advice would you give to brides planning a wedding right now?
Enjoy it. Don’t let yourself get stressed and be bridezilla. Just remember what it’s about. Decide what three things you really care most about being done a certain way and take care of those so then you know you can just chill about the rest (mine was my dress).
What would you do differently if you were to plan your wedding over?
Us: we wouldn’t change a thing. It was a perfect day and we ended up together so we’re good!
What was your husband’s favorite wedding detail?
Sak: Tera in her wedding dress, her dress was amazing. Then the music and the way we had the wedding party enter to it. Loved the song we chose.
What did you find to be the most difficult party of wedding planning?
Maybe not difficult, but I really hated doing invitations, getting everyone’s addresses, etc. Not getting overwhelmed by the details and keeping things organized.
What has been your favorite thing about being married?
Sak: Sex. Haha but seriously. But I would say one of the first things that comes to mind is never having to say goodbye at night, not having to go home. I hated that…I hated leaving, so that’s the biggest change for us from being not married to being married.
Tera: I would probably say the same thing. Knowing that we officially are together and so we come to places together and leave together and no one can say we have to be apart because we BELONG together. Super fun being adventure partners in life together and knowing that we can work to being the ultimate teammates and learn each other’s strengths and weaknesses and then learn how to best work together. That, and having a best friend who I know is never going to leave and I can always count on - he’s not perfect, but he’ll be here for me when I’m not either.
What has been the hardest part about marriage?
Us: It’s not always a bad thing, but it can be hard to realize the weight of seeing you are both just people and so when you have bad days or are depressed or irritable, to know that that affects the other. Feeling that responsibility and trying to not be selfish, etc. It takes time and effort and LOTS of communication to learn how to fuse together two people that are used to being independent and have different strengths and may think there are better ways to do something than the way the other wants. But we think that it’s not “marriage” persay that’s “hard”; friendship takes work and time and marriage is just a spiritual pact to work on the best friendship you’ll ever have, so yea, it’s not always “fun”, but MAN it’s good.
Just remember that your spouse is a person, just like you. He can definitely be your knight in shining armor and you his beautiful princess, as it should be…but you need to not NEED something from each other. Need each other, yes…but do not look for the answers to your soul’s longing from each other. They are not meant to be that. God must fill your soul and give you life and meaning, and then they get to be the one to seek out the great adventure He places before you alongside you. They are a wonderful best friend, a lovely soulmate, the sweetest of lovers, but a terrible god.
Quotes used on Sak and Tera's wedding day program
“This is one of the miracles of love; It gives a power of seeing through its own enchantments and yet not being disenchanted…” C.S. Lewis.
“…Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies…” Aristotle.
Thank you Sak and Tera for sharing with Just be. You to are such an example of true love and I hope that people who
